- Stay focused – Say: “Here. Now”.
- Notice the push or pull of opponent’s comments. Remain centered. Smile ๐
- Allow your mind and body to note insults and criticisms; let them flow beside you. Move your body like a ninja and watch the negative thoughts move past.
- You cannot control anyone’s behavior but your own. Control your breath. Keep calm, breathe in and out, slow it down. Do this until you are centered. It’s a gift!
- Say kind things to yourself: “I have been through tough times and I can handle this too.” Repeat, “this too.” Smile ๐ Your smile will disarm both you and others ๐
- Say to yourself, “I am a good person, I am a good mother/father”. Believe it!
- Everyone, everyone makes mistakes. It is part of being a human being.ย Say, “I am doing the best I can under these present circumstances.”
- Respond. Do not RE-act. Be curious, say “Can you please repeat that?”ย Repeat what they say, give yourself time to construct a mindful response.
- Negative self-talk is not useful; it is a waste of your precious time. Be kind, say to yourself:”I am working on it”. Don’t be rushed. Don’t rush yourself.ย Breathe.
- Don’t judge yourself. You are a product of your DNA, culture and history. And you can still do something different and/or act differently, each new day. Each day is a new day to do something different. Start by loving yourself, being kind to you, so you can be loving towards what you value, your children, family, friends, and career.